The following are indicators of possible way adults may enable students to continue of with negative behaviors around chemical use:
- Do you and your spouse frequently disagree or argue about your child's behavior?
- Do you often worry about your child's problems?
- Have you ever tried to cover up or make excuses for your child's behavior instead of discussing the situation with our spouse, friend, or school personnel?
- Do you feel frustrated because no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to change your child's behavior?
- Do you feel relieved when your child leaves the house?
- Do you feel anger or general dislike for your child?
- Are you afraid that you may have become a failure as a parent?
- Have you tried to change your behavior in hopes that it would cause a change in your child's behavior?
- Do you give money to your child without your spouse's knowledge?
- Do you have a growing fear that your child "is out of control"?
- Do you fear that your child might injure him/herself or others?
- Do you "bargain" with your child in an attempt to change behavior?
- Do you feel disappointed that you had to compromise your own values or lower your expectations concerning your child?
- Do you find yourself desiring to spend less time at home to avoid conflicts with your child?
If you check a number of these symptoms, you may be caught in this trap, and could be creating an environment that rewards and reinforces inappropriate teen behaviors, rather than stopping them. A good first step toward intervention is to seek professional help concerning your own particular situation.
Please feel free to contact a school Counselor or Dean for more information at (952) 975-8000 or refer to the Resources page.